THE SEVEN EMOTIONAL HUNGERSred lanterns strung along the dark unknown of another’s personality, marking vulnerable points.” Ayn Rand Author of Atlas Shrugged (1957) There are basic human emotions that all people need in order to feel happy and fulfilled. If a person is undernourished in any of these emotions, they will tend to gravitate toward those who can fill these needs quickly and elegantly. Here are seven key emotions that men hunger for in their love lives: THE HUNGER FOR STABILITY: One of the main reasons that a man will seek a more mature woman is the stability, security, and peace of mind that she brings to a relationship. In an uncertain world, it is the feeling of certainty that is often most highly prized. THE HUNGER FOR SURPRISE: A younger woman is often appealing to an older man because of the surprise and delight that she brings to a love relationship. While certainty is highly prized, so is a little uncertainty to create excitement, variety, and spontaneity to a man’s life. THE HUNGER FOR APPRECIATION: A man hungers to be recognized for his unique qualities or gifts. It is by being sincerely appreciated by a woman that a man feels special as a human being. THE HUNGER FOR BELONGING: Deep inside a man’s heart must be a feeling that he really belongs with her. While he may enjoy the feeling of being unique as an individual, he also needs to feel the special connection of being an integral part of her team. THE HUNGER FOR A COMPELLING FUTURE: For love to last, there needs to be growth. A man hungers for a woman who he clearly feels will be a major part of creating a brighter and more exciting future for him. THE HUNGER TO GIVE: Real love involves both giving and receiving. A man hungers for the woman he can please by receiving his emotional gifts with gratitude. Like a great performer, a man is inspired to greatness by a woman who is a warm appreciative audience. THE HUNGER TO FEEL GRATEFUL: A man who feels the magic of true love rarely obsesses about the benefits and trade-offs with a woman. Instead he is simply grateful for having this particular woman appear in his life. The greatest need for a man is the need to get down on his knees and thank the heavens for being blessed with the love of a woman he adores and cherishes. *The Bottom Line: Create an unshakable
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